Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT)
How did we get stuck?
We fell in love. We shared many special moments and have beautiful memories. So how did we get to this place where sometimes, or often, it feels like we are on opposing teams?
There is that repetitive conflict that makes me think: Here we go again. Or a look on your face that tells me that you’re not getting me. In those moments, the harder I try to help us reconnect, the more stuck we seem to get. And the stress of life isn’t making it any easier.
I’m not quite sure what happened to us – but I want you to know that I’m doing my best and I really want us to connect. We deserve better.
How did we get stuck?
We fell in love. We shared many special moments and have beautiful memories. So how did we get to this place where sometimes, or often, it feels like we are on opposing teams?
There is that repetitive conflict that makes me think: Here we go again. Or a look on your face that tells me that you’re not getting me. In those moments, the harder I try to help us reconnect, the more stuck we seem to get. And the stress of life isn’t making it any easier.
I’m not quite sure what happened to us – but I want you to know that I’m doing my best and I really want us to connect. We deserve better.
What is EFCT like?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a process. At home, you have had many rounds of the same hard moments. In sessions, we work towards a different experience, so the numbers can start changing in your favour: less failure, more success.
I know you already apply many strategies: explain, suggest a fix, give space. These are all great when the relationship is calm. But when the stakes get high, these tools-for-the-good-times are not enough.
In EFCT we practice, right here and now, how to move through the tough moments. I’ve got your back as you two explore what is going on, as you take the risk and try new conversations.
What is EFCT like?
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFCT) is a process. At home, you have had many rounds of the same hard moments. In sessions, we work towards a different experience, so the numbers can start changing in your favour: less failure, more success.
I know you already apply many strategies: explain, suggest a fix, give space. These are all great when the relationship is calm. But when the stakes get high, these tools-for-the-good-times are not enough.
In EFCT we practice, right here and now, how to move through the tough moments. I’ve got your back as you two explore what is going on, as you take the risk and try new conversations.
How can EFCT help?
First, we work on understanding what happens between you. This stage can bring relief. It also explores the blocks that make you stuck. That means we are on the right track, bringing stability to the specific moments that need help.
Next, we focus on creating more lasting change. This can mean learning how to meet each other’s needs, addressing old wounds, or repairing after a hard time. In session and at home, you can send clear messages and respond with comfort.
As we work on your specific goals, you move toward what matters to you – with more ease and a strong sense that you two are on the same team.
- Communication problems
- Constant arguments
- Lack of intimacy
- Feeling disconnected
- Navigating life transitions
- Repairing after conflict
- Rebuilding trust
- Clear communication
Emotionally Focused Therapy available online and in East Melbourne.
Visit the Sessions page for more details.